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To clarify...❤️

I just want to say that these blogs stand as a way for me to not only work on myself but to be vulnerable.  In no way are they intended to ever call someone out or to send a message, that's not who I am.  I'm someone who doesn't always get it right, who fails, who's hard on themself, who's insecure in some areas...I'm flawed! But, I'm constantly trying to learn, grow and reflect on my day to day interactions. I'm someone who is ok being raw and open even when it's not so pretty!!!

I woke feeling like I needed to clarify this in case my words, feelings or interpretations cause anyone pain...that will never be my heart!

In fact, that actually brings me to another thought...

It's never about you!!!!

The way someone treats you or talks to you(or about you) is never truly about you.  I wish that someone would have spoken these words to me forever ago.  I don't know that my 20 something self would have listened to that kind of wisdom but goodness....those are powerful words!  You know when you hear the age old question of "If you could go back and tell your younger self one word of wisdom, what would it be?"...well that would be it for me.  A lot of times, the way someone treats you or talks to you is really....are you ready for it?!?  ....it's about the way they see themself, I said it, its about THEM!!!! Let's be honest, we all have insecurities, some more severe than others..but we have them.  And when someone is hurting and really feeling some kind of way about themselves, they lash out! They may speak ugly to you or about you, they may bring negative energy around you that's uncomfortable.  It doesn't feel good...but stand in your light and in your truth! It's not about you!!

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