I want to challenge moms to get onboard!!
Too often I hear women critiquing fellow moms choices in how they want to raise their children. The lack of grace and compassion for each other and our journey is heart breaking.
For example: I follow Kourtney Kardashian on Instagram(don't laugh), I love seeing her style and her day to day with her children. I think she's a great mom! Yesterdays Instagram was of two of her babies sleeping, tangled together all cozy and sweet. As I scrolled down I began reading a few comment left by individuals, whether moms, single women(without kids), men, teenagers, maybe even grandparents. While majority of the comments were about how precious these children were, I couldn't help but notice the mass of ugly, mean spirited and rude words left under such an innocent picture. Some were shaming her for allowing her children to sleep in her bed, others found it sickening that the youngest(who is 1) had a pacifier in her mouth. And many had the nerve to insult Kourtney's decision to put her children in night-time pull ups. There were even comments about how horrible it was that she didn't use cloth diapers! I was appalled, who has the right to treat another mom/person that way? These children are loved and adored, they are so well cared for. They are being raised the best way this mom sees fit. As in most cases, moms/parents, we all want the best for our children. The criticism isn't limited to celebrities, its within our extended families, our friends, a stranger at the grocery store and maybe even your church social/small groups.
While I am an advocate for breastfeeding, I understand that breast is not always best for another individual. So before you criticize another mom for not breastfeeding, you may consider what that mom walked through. She may have tried like crazy to nurse her baby and was unable to, for moms that suffer that it is very emotional. And there are some moms who just deicide its not for them, and thats ok!!
I think what people need to understand is that every child is different, what works for one won't work for another. As parents we pick our battles, there are many!! I mean seriously, shouldn't the biggest concerns be for a childs well being, emotional stability and security? Is cloth vs disposable diapers, and pacifier vs self soothe really that important?
Let's set our egos aside and lead with our hearts. Let's ask ourselves, what has this mom been through today (did her baby pull an all nighter, did her toddler just throw massive tantrum), Let's be more concerned with each others well being rather than compete with what we view as our own triumphs in motherhood. Motherhood doesn't look the same to every woman, it may not come as easily for one. We all have off days, so before judging one another, can we praise each other for simply being on the same team.
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Too often I hear women critiquing fellow moms choices in how they want to raise their children. The lack of grace and compassion for each other and our journey is heart breaking.
For example: I follow Kourtney Kardashian on Instagram(don't laugh), I love seeing her style and her day to day with her children. I think she's a great mom! Yesterdays Instagram was of two of her babies sleeping, tangled together all cozy and sweet. As I scrolled down I began reading a few comment left by individuals, whether moms, single women(without kids), men, teenagers, maybe even grandparents. While majority of the comments were about how precious these children were, I couldn't help but notice the mass of ugly, mean spirited and rude words left under such an innocent picture. Some were shaming her for allowing her children to sleep in her bed, others found it sickening that the youngest(who is 1) had a pacifier in her mouth. And many had the nerve to insult Kourtney's decision to put her children in night-time pull ups. There were even comments about how horrible it was that she didn't use cloth diapers! I was appalled, who has the right to treat another mom/person that way? These children are loved and adored, they are so well cared for. They are being raised the best way this mom sees fit. As in most cases, moms/parents, we all want the best for our children. The criticism isn't limited to celebrities, its within our extended families, our friends, a stranger at the grocery store and maybe even your church social/small groups.
While I am an advocate for breastfeeding, I understand that breast is not always best for another individual. So before you criticize another mom for not breastfeeding, you may consider what that mom walked through. She may have tried like crazy to nurse her baby and was unable to, for moms that suffer that it is very emotional. And there are some moms who just deicide its not for them, and thats ok!!
I think what people need to understand is that every child is different, what works for one won't work for another. As parents we pick our battles, there are many!! I mean seriously, shouldn't the biggest concerns be for a childs well being, emotional stability and security? Is cloth vs disposable diapers, and pacifier vs self soothe really that important?
Let's set our egos aside and lead with our hearts. Let's ask ourselves, what has this mom been through today (did her baby pull an all nighter, did her toddler just throw massive tantrum), Let's be more concerned with each others well being rather than compete with what we view as our own triumphs in motherhood. Motherhood doesn't look the same to every woman, it may not come as easily for one. We all have off days, so before judging one another, can we praise each other for simply being on the same team.
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