No Drama Mama

Are you ever fearful of what others might think of you?  Do you experience fear in regards to your kids, spouse, family or friends? Isaiah 43:1 "Don't fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are MINE." This scripture runs through my mind daily!! Fearfulness is an unsolicited addiction that I personally battle. For example, I write this blog...Will my loved ones get upset over my truths, my feelings, my views or my opinions?  Will others respond with approval?  I don't know the answers to that and while I stopped needing anyones approval or acceptance long ago, there's still that part of me that thinks approval and acceptance would be nice.  I worry that my words will unintentionally hurt someone, that is never my heart or intention, but it's very possible.  My hope is to speak into someone else's life that may struggle with any of these topics.  I hope to pour love into the hearts of women walking through motherhood, relationshi...

I captioned the phrase "Happily Ever After" under a photo I posted on social media recently, that phrase has continued to caused me unsettled feelings.  For the life of me I couldn't figure out what I was trying to work out in my mind and in my heart. There is so much more that should have gone in that caption other that "Happily Ever After".  The reality is that there is no "Happily Ever After".   It's more like, “ Let's give it our best today,  Lets choose each other, or today is tough but lets choose joy, love, hope.” Marriage is a choice!! You choose each other every single day, you're intentional with your words and actions, you give yourself to another person. My husband and I met when we were 18 years old and shortly after we were inseparable... There's no fairy tale or Happily Ever After to our story.  The reality is that we wake up every morning and choose to be happy in our relationship, we choose to share ourselves, we c...

I'm just going to spit it out....my oldest, who is almost 8, came home from school and asked what a  whore was 😳....what the what!!!!!  My heart felt like it skipped a few beats!  Generally when my  kids repeat a questionable word that they've heard outside our home, my method is to give little to no attention to it, as to not give I life.  There are times that a word does need explaining but in my experience if they get a rise out of me then they store that little nugget away for a time that they want to see mom squirm.  But this, this word got me fired up...for one, its a terrible word and second, it made me sad that on some level a small amount of innocence was lost the second that word entered his ears and exited his mouth.  I know, I know..he didn't know what it meant but gosh darn..I thought I still had time to be a filter for my son, the ability to sift through the things that were in the "need to know" category and the things that were in th...

I just want to say that these blogs stand as a way for me to not only work on myself but to be vulnerable.  In no way are they intended to ever call someone out or to send a message, that's not who I am.  I'm someone who doesn't always get it right, who fails, who's hard on themself, who's insecure in some areas...I'm flawed! But, I'm constantly trying to learn, grow and reflect on my day to day interactions. I'm someone who is ok being raw and open even when it's not so pretty!!! I woke feeling like I needed to clarify this in case my words, feelings or interpretations cause anyone pain...that will never be my heart! In fact, that actually brings me to another thought... It's never about you!!!! The way someone treats you or talks to you(or about you) is never truly about you.  I wish that someone would have spoken these words to me forever ago.  I don't know that my 20 something self would have listened to that kind of wisdom but go...

As much as I want to blog about all the joys of being a Mom, Wife, Friend, Sister...etc.   I think its important to just get real with you . With so many people trying to fit the perfect "social media standard" looking family, lifestyle or #relationshipgoals, isn't it refreshing to be reminded that life can be messy, and that its ok? Of course we all want kids that don't talk back, a clean house, a boss wardrobe, friendships that make us not feel so alone and that resemble "those girls who seem inseparable and are always laughing."  But, that may not be our reality! My reality is this.... I'm a mom of 3 : 3 beautiful children at all different stages, who are 3 completely different little     people. Who, at any moment can be having 3 completely different meltdowns. They, love hard, play hard, and crash hard! God love 'em!! I'm a wife : Thinking about this man makes an instant smile come to my face, Oh he is the love of my life!! He's exc...

As women, whether we're mothers, daughters, sisters or friends, we have the biggest opportunity to speak into so many peoples lives.  We have the ability to show the fiercest love for others!! We grow life, we speak life and we exude life.  Women are natural leaders, we have love and logic on our side. We are capable of so much, if we as a culture would root for one another and focus on our best form of life,  can you imagine the world we'd be living in? If we truly sharpened one another as we're called to do rather than judging, tearing down and accusing others..think of the peace! 

I found ME!!! For so long I thought I needed to prove myself to those around me..why do we do this?!? We feel the need to prove where we've been in life or correct misconceptions (lies that people believe about us).  I've known who I am all along and what I've come to realize is that I love me!! I believe in me!! No more getting knocked down by what others want to say or think about me..nope no more!! I've lived my whole life following the rules and sticking close to my spiritual, moral and core beliefs. The unfortunate truth though is that no matter how solid of a person you are, there will always be those who tell you you're someone else and there's nothing you can do about people like this. I've never felt more comfortable in my own skin as I do now and that's because "I Found Me", I stopped trying to prove myself.  If you love me, you love me and if you don't....BYE!! I say this with a pure heart not a sassy, indigent attitude!!...